Being a Pastor’s Wife… My Style

If you have been with me these past 9 days, we have covered a lot!  But I want to change it up a bit for these next few blogs.  I want to get a little transparent with you and give you a little “insider info”.  Because if you are anything like me, you have a serious pastor’s wife stereotype in your head. Most likely those stereotypes are pretty unrealistic, and that is just not me!

So here are my Top 5 “Insightful” Thoughts to Being a Pastor’s Wife… My style…

• I don’t sing. On second thought, I do sing, but definitely not well or on pitch.  But I don’t sing in a choir, on stage, or in duet with my husband in church. I sing in the car with one other person present who happens to be less than 6 months old and so she will smile at anything, including my off pitch notes!  Not even Rodney has ever heard me sing.
• I have a bad habit of watching The Real Housewives of…wherever. It can be a pretty ridiculous show, but I still love it. The New Jersey cast is still my favorite but the Beverly Hills ladies were so out there and lived such an unreal life that I had to watch that too.
• I am not the church secretary, children’s director, women’s ministry leader or the pastor’s assistant. And I’m really fine with not being any of those things! I love my church, and I love serving, but my husband, as well as the church, puts absolutely no pressure on me to be any of those things.  That is why I volunteer each week as a teacher in the pre-school class and I do it because I love it.  But most importantly, I try to support, love and encourage my hubby the best I can so that he is the best pastor he can be!  The pastor’s wife is not a package deal. I didn’t marry the church, I married my husband so booyah!
• I am not a professional counselor. I have really great conversations with people I don’t know until it turns to the subject of  “so what does your husband do?”  Once that is out there, that is always a game changer.  Don’t get me wrong or twist this.   I love to listen to people, but I’m not a priest and yet it still turns into “confession time“!
• It wasn’t my life-long dream to be a pastor’s wife, and that is an understatement! It surprised me to find myself dating a pastor as much as it surprised a lot of other people. And to top it off, then I married one!  Rodney and I always joke that if he had met me in college, we would have been about as good of a match as Lady Gaga and the Pope.  And I’m not saying that I am Lady Gaga and he is the Pope, but we are pretty different people. But I cannot imagine my life without him now!