Rodney and I go out on dates. We drop off Mariclaire with a babysitter and we actually date each other. And we are married! And still love each other too!
It surprised me to read a blog post this past week that totally put down the concept of a husband and wife still dating each other. This blogger said that there is way too much pressure on married couples to have date nights and to “date each other”, especially when there are kids in the picture. She then went on to say that a married couple’s love should not be confined to a once-a-month date night, it should be about loving each other daily. And I totally agree. Sort of.
I am incredibly in love with my little girl. But I still love my husband more. And I think a lot of Moms are guilty of the same thing that I am guilty of – showing the baby a lot more attention than we do our spouse. And when I say “attention” that also means “love”.
This is the reason I am a huge advocate for date nights. They readjust what we get so used to doing every day, sometimes all hours of the day, which is paying attention to our kids only.
Rodney and I were very fortunate to start out on the right foot. We started “dating” early on in our marriage and still do. Our first date night after Mariclaire was born was on October 14. She was born on October 10. Yes, of the same year.
So here are a few tidbits of advice to get your date life going:
- Start small. You don’t have to take a week long trip to date each other. Start off with an hour or two. You will realize how much more you actually pay attention to each other when there are no kids around.
- Put your cell phone away! The biggest date buzz kill is to see your husband/wife checking their cell phone under the table while you are waiting on your food.
- Set a date, plan it, and stick to it. The worst thing you can do is reschedule, because then it most likely will not happen. So make sure that date is really open and do not move it unless you absolutely have to.